"In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight."
~Ram Dass"
As usual, Ram Dass had the lasered words to define the stirred emotions within me. Last year was the year I would peel away another layer of costumes. Layers of identities I had claimed throughout my lifetime. Identities that I felt gave me value and defined my existence on the planet. Without those identities, who am I? Peeling and releasing allowed me internal space to move and shift, and I embraced it. I learned to sit in the discomfort of not knowing the next steps. I spent more time in solitude patiently waiting and listening. I re-connected with myself. I began to hear my own voice. I spent less time reassuring people. I stayed in the discomfort of that until the shifting occurred. I defined boundaries that created more space to be myself and for you to be yourself.
I learned more about boundaries and separateness with guidance from people like Jeff Brown:
"To let go of duality, we must first establish our separateness. We must first learn where we end & the other begins. As a general rule, if we're too rigid, we're over-boundaried. Imprisoned behind a wall of armor, there is no way for anything to touch us. But if we're too malleable, we're boundary-less. We're just a vessel for the world to fill. People with healthy boundaries tend to live somewhere in between.~Jeff Brown author of SoulShaping."
I began to examine all of my actions with a microscope and a telescope. Why in the chaos and discomfort of my own soul-calling, living-on-the-edge moments, do I feel the need to reassure people everything is going to be okay? Why do I have to answer them with a time frame and try to define something I do not understand myself? Why, during the labor process of my soul emerging to new heights, do I feel like I have to take care of everyone else?
I am learning what is my voice and what is your voice. I am learning to distinguish between the messy ego-based fear and the light-filled wisdom of my higher voice. And in the place of silence in between, I can see you. I can witness your pain without feeling the need to fix, reassure and change anything in this moment.
The Soul Calling is stronger. The connection is stronger. The need to know all of the answers is lessening. The Self-Love is stronger. The witnessing of another without fixing is stronger. I enter this year with more hope, love and stillness to live in the experience of the moment.
The journey continues...
~Ram Dass"
Photo by Ken Wieland
I learned more about boundaries and separateness with guidance from people like Jeff Brown:
"To let go of duality, we must first establish our separateness. We must first learn where we end & the other begins. As a general rule, if we're too rigid, we're over-boundaried. Imprisoned behind a wall of armor, there is no way for anything to touch us. But if we're too malleable, we're boundary-less. We're just a vessel for the world to fill. People with healthy boundaries tend to live somewhere in between.~Jeff Brown author of SoulShaping."
I began to examine all of my actions with a microscope and a telescope. Why in the chaos and discomfort of my own soul-calling, living-on-the-edge moments, do I feel the need to reassure people everything is going to be okay? Why do I have to answer them with a time frame and try to define something I do not understand myself? Why, during the labor process of my soul emerging to new heights, do I feel like I have to take care of everyone else?
I am learning what is my voice and what is your voice. I am learning to distinguish between the messy ego-based fear and the light-filled wisdom of my higher voice. And in the place of silence in between, I can see you. I can witness your pain without feeling the need to fix, reassure and change anything in this moment.
The Soul Calling is stronger. The connection is stronger. The need to know all of the answers is lessening. The Self-Love is stronger. The witnessing of another without fixing is stronger. I enter this year with more hope, love and stillness to live in the experience of the moment.
The journey continues...
Author: Andrea Hylen is a Grief Transformation Guide, Minister of Spiritual Peacemaking, a facilitator for people in the ministry program, and co-author of Conscious Choices: An Evolutionary Woman's Guide to Life. Her next book, Open to Inspiration: The summer a woman discovered herself with a teenage daughter and the Jonas Brothers on a 10,000 mile road trip will be published in 2011. Her greatest desire is to inspire people to live a deeper, richer life as leaders of their own lives. http://www.opentoinspiration.com/ http://www.blogtalkradio.com/livingontheedge She is the creator of an innovative, interactive e-book club where she uses stories of her life's journey to help other people discover their own. Go to her website for more information. Article Source: http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Andrea_Hylen |
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